It's only a problem if it's a problem for YOU
Working with people as intimately as I do, I often hear something like “my husband wants me to change…” or “my doctor thinks this is a problem.” Here's what I have come to believe as truth: it's only a problem if it's a problem for you. A desire to change and grow only works if it is fed from within. I used to work at a chemical dependency center and found the people who were internally motivated (truly wanted change) were much more successful at engaging in therapy and worke